Nowadays, people tend to be all cynical when it comes to finding their lifetime partner – actually almost everyone searching for one is no longer sure whether such a catch still exists. If you are in the hunt for the good ones, then you are probably one of the million people thinking hardly about the equation to sift the bad apples from the nicest in batch. Players are dangers in disguise – we all know that. Proper caution and right state of mind and heart should always be at hand to guard yourself from lurking disasters like them. They can come in the most dapper outfit you can ever see, flower you with words, shower you with gifts and even pretend that all their intentions are real but in the end turns out to be fool’s gold if you are not too careful. Online dating sites do their best to filter out dishonnst men, but it’s such a hard task to accomplish.
Players gravitate to where women are. For example, if we just focus on eharmony.com, tons of websites have tested & reviewed eharmony.com and offer specific tactics to get laid on the dating giant, almost turing eharmony into the perfect scam for players to operate on. That’s quite sad, given most women join sites like eHarmony to find a soulmate, not a one hight stand hookup.
But what qualities does it really require for one to consider the other a good find? Of course naturally, this would all depend on the preference of those who are searching, the physical features, probably their stature in life, smell, potential, bank account and what their friends and family’s opinions about their potential mate are just some of the numerous factors to consider here. Some even resort to dating sites, blind dates, common friend hook ups but some remain passive – or should I say, conservative by just waiting for the right one to come or leaving it to fate. The searching and waiting might be all a drag and can become physically, emotionally and mentally stressing, but the answer here is simple – to tell a good guy from a bad, one must learn to look beyond the surface. It is only through the heart that one can find someone with an equally genuine heart to give.
The good guys may seem a hard find but all you need to look for in a guy is the fact that they can accept you for you, can look past through all your imperfections, isn’t afraid to admit his/her fault and someone who doesn’t mind being with someone like you for the rest of your life. Hey, you don’t really expect a too good to be true kind of person, right? One must never wish or hope for a fairytale. Everybody’s got spots and yes that includes you too. The secret to finding a good one and at the same time keeping it is weaving your imperfections into something positive. Never resist the fact that you can learn from each other. If you want to tell a good guy from a player, the best solution is to be one. Remember the cliché that goes “it takes one to know one”? – Only you can really tell.
